War against the self

"Anytime you identify somebody else as evil, you are looking at a mirror. Maybe my fervent identification with being on "‘team good” is a way to cover up my deep fear that maybe I am not a good person. But let me prove that I am.

This is one way to understand the cleavage of our society into opposing poles. It comes from a wound. A wound of self rejection. In compensation for that wound, many of us endlessly seek to demonstrate our worthiness and our virtue and our superiority over others. But it comes from an inferiority complex. What is the origin of that? What is the origin of this wound of separation, this wound of self rejection?

I invite you to feel the presence of that.

Our political landscape is a mirror of our psychic landscape. Each dimension of healing reflects all the other dimensions of healing. You can see the relatedness of personal healing, relational healing, social healing, political healing and ecological healing. Like a holograph. Each part is a map of the whole.

We are really all in this together. “

Charles Eisenstein

It begins with the self. Where does this regime of control get reflected onto our relationship with our own being? We are seeking the enemy within ourselves and then implementing a plan to eradicate the “bad”. Our unthinking response, our unexamined default is to use force against what we think is the problem. As we do to ourselves, we do to those we lead and children we raise.

Rewards and punishments are a form of force and coercion upholding the war mentality.

What are the questions we are not asking? What are the roots? Are we willing to sit with not knowing a different way? Not knowing the answers. Are we willing to feel into the degree to which this is not working? Not with ourselves and not with others? By being with…the discomfort of not knowing…the realization that this isn’t working and we don’t know how to do it differently, we can open up a space from which something new can emerge.

Notice and observe all the ways that you engage in a war against your self. What is that wound? What is the need underneath the strategy of force, of trying to make something happen?

Be with THAT. I will, too. Let’s be in this together.

Big love,

Kris

Kris Laroche

Philosophical Life + Leadership Coach

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