The power of NO.

It is curious what we bump up against when we say no to something or someone. The mental flurry of worry.

Have you noticed that? The storm of thoughts and feelings that comes about after taking that kind of stand, when it is your truth?

Let’s meet up for dinner? No thanks.

Will you carpool out to the barn with us? No.

Have you gotten your vaccine? No, I have not.

But on the other side of that mental rush that wants you to backpedal into the familiar groove of pleasing everyone and being liked is something better than you can imagine. I have decided it is the feeling that we are looking for in all the wrong places.

“She won’t take no for an answer.” This was what someone recently told me about another person. How could this be? How could someone not take no for an answer if no is the answer? That’s on you, sister. If you are clear and unapologetic in your no, then how can a person not accept that? She may punish you emotionally, ignoring you or being a little rude. She may talk about you with other people. No matter…she can do whatever she wants. That’s her problem, my friend.

No is no.

To let your mind spin it any other way is to deny your own truth and your truth is given to you by something much bigger than being popular or nice. In a sense, it is none of your business why no is no. It simply is. And you required to show up and say it in order to live YOUR life. As Glennon Doyle says, “these are your marching orders”.

And the flip side is this: yes is yes. Do you know the whole body humming of a real, honest “yes”? There is nothing like it. Every no opens the way for that kind of yes. Talk about decluttering. It is so clean and quiet and right when you make this your north star.

No is no and yes is yes.

The rest will take care of itself. Trust me.

Big love,

Kris